I know you’ve heard it before: if you want to lose weight you just have to “eat less and move more”. The whole “calories in, calories out” thing sounds completely reasonable: expend more energy than you take in so your body will adapt to burn through extra fat and lead to weight loss. Except when it doesn’t actually result in weight loss.
And while the professional fitness people and the professional food people are arguing about who should give what kind of advice, we’re effectively losing the bigger battle. The general public doesn’t know how to cut through the noise and is no better equipped to find the resources they need to resolve their health issues on their own.
I am not saying it’s ok to set out to change your size and shape in order to love yourself. I’m not saying it’s ok to love yourself when you get to your idea size and shape. The people I work with, especially the women that I work with, neither hate themselves, nor feel they’re not good enough at this place and time.